This is a great self-help book:

“Your Erroneous Zones’ by Wayne Dyer.

I read this a long time ago, but alot of it has stuck with me. It’s a hard read. It is a book that really gets you thinking about your patterns (most of us have them), especially in regards to what I call (maybe the book does too?), ‘the blame game’. It is much easier to look outward when we are dissatisfied with out lives than it is to pause and self-reflect and to take responsibility for what we ourselves, can do to improve our lives. As I said, this is not an easy book, its actually an uncomfortable read, but I believe it is a helpful for many people. It has been many years since I read it, but it is actually a book I am thinking I will re-read.